You need to ask White people all the questions you’re asking me. I live in a lily White community. I dine and shop in mostly White spaces because of where I live. My kids are assimilated and educated, so am I. What part of this are you not getting? It does not matter what I do, I’m never free of racism. White people will still behave in the same way no matter my socioeconomic status. I’m never free from White Supremacy. I’m always in danger.
Nothing stops White people from acting racistly. Nothing. Not money, nor class. Not education. Not upbringing. Not church/religion. Not laws. Nothing.
The onus isn’t on me or any Black person to figure this out. Our jobs are to protect ourselves and our families from the onslaught of racism and try to survive it.