Best line of the essay. I have had so many men complain because they love oral but their wives and significant others don’t like giving it. They end up cheating making both women miserable. I wish people would be open about sex and their needs. It’s too important not to communicate about it. I love giving and receiving, but I have found most men give because they want o receive. Something about the way you wrote this made me re-evaluate whether I love giving oral (BJs). I would say for the most part giving oral has made life easier.
Other things that may be of concern are odor/a lack of cleanliness and pubic hair. Those things can be deal breakers for many partners. At the end of the day, if oral is important and you find your steady partner dislikes it, you should get a new partner. This was a great essay.