First, thanks for the examples and understanding where I was coming from. Your examples are hilarious but I see the examples of how White people interact with people as transactional. It’s terrible but it also speaks to a American superiority complex certain groups have. Your example helps me understand I’m not just seeing things.

Your examples about your Black friend reminds me of my dad and myself when I got older. When I was young, everyone knew my dad. He was always talking to people, speaking to people. We couldn’t go anyplace without people knowing him from school, work, somewhere. Fast forward 20 years and I have kids and they say the same thing about me. I know everyone and everyone knows me. I could hardly get in and out of a stores without people speaking to me and me doing the same. I worked at a college (in financial aid) so I saw or spoke to thousands of people. I remembered hundreds of people from all walks and of all ethnicities. I remember nice people and good people. Unfortunately, I remember bad people too.

I never understand how you can’t remember people you come in contact with closely and/or frequently. It’s terrible. Your explanation reinforces it’s very much a cultural thing. Thanks for sharing your story and giving me a laugh!

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