From the moment I married my second husband, everything of his was “my” and “mines.” He had been married for 15 years to his previous wife who cleaned out his bank account on the way out formally. Our relationship paid the price for it. Everything had to be his. It was never about us. If you like your stuff better than you like significant other, marry that stuff! Don’t ruin anyone else’s life. It’s a mental and emotional drain. Not to add a total waste of time. People are so selfish.
I never felt covered. Never protected. I felt alone. We divorced after 13 years together, 10 years of marriage. This is one of the best pieces I’ve ever read. It should be included in marriage counseling!