Ha, this one I didn’t even think about until I saw this. My grandma used to say “Ain’t nothing good happening after midnight, and nothing was open but legs and the Waffle House.

I must admit some of these things are perhaps cultural. Like eating food. In many cultures, thick women are the norm. We aren’t expected to be thin or frail. In fact not only do men expect us to be thick, they use this as a method of determining whether we can cook and we eat (at least that was my experience).

Interrupted in professional settings by men — yep. But I always held my own. I made them listen to me. I demand respect. I am not afraid of them.

Of all the things you noted I have experienced them all, but I have never thought of myself a victim, nor do I live my life in fear. I go where I want to, even late…and I never worry about a man doing something to me. I remain aware of my faculties and I do not get so intoxicated I don’t know where I am or how to leave if I need to.

While these things do happen to lots of women, not all of us feel it’s a crime nor do we see ourselves as victims. Men just need to be taught to be better human beings and be held accountable when they aren’t by their male friends and society in general.

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