Thanks for your feedback and sharing your experiences as a White man and with a Thai wife expected to fall under the label of being a Person of Color. The CPT joke is hilarious because I think many of us speak of it in our own communities or circles. I think all of us are comfortable among our own groups. It’s undeniable and there is nothing wrong with that. But we must come out of comfort zones to engage in a White world for all intended purposes. Every standard we are forced to use for our survival and to live comfortably for the most part are not our own. And even if they were, they’ve been hijacked by colonialism, so we all are in the same boat when it comes to engaging Whiteness.
Every group has to deal with Whiteness in their own way. But one thing is certain, they all get the luxury of not being Black when it suits them (unless they happen into marry into a family). Even if they don’t talk about it, I’m sure there are whispers not to deal with Blacks as it makes life harder for other non-white POC. It’s an open secret, so I just wanted to talk about it.
I’m in no way advocating tribalism, nor would I ever deprive a group of my support or gifting if needed, but they would have to want my help. Other groups already practice tribalism, including Whites. They create entire communities in order to keep their dollars circulating through it. They create their own community organizations, churches, banking centers, schools etc. Blacks have fought desegregation, and other groups fight us to continue it. It’s so complex, too complex to address in a brief essay like this one, but there is already tribalism in the minority communities. The Black/POC issue I’m going to explain in a little more detail regarding the Civil Rights Act in a later piece, connecting the dots on how we fight, while others benefit — thumbing their noses as the reap the benefits.
You can go to any major city and most POCs have their own town/area. POC not associated with a White spouse are more likely to live among their own ethnic group. Is that not a form of tribalism regardless of whether it’s for comfort or protectionism? When we (Blacks) do it, we’re told we need to desegregate. We also desired desegregation. Once we achieved it, we learned it’s not all that great due to the Blacklash. It’s crazy.
Many groups don’t want anything to do with Blacks in their circles as my essay noted. Others conveniently want the label or status for benefits (i.e. federal/state contracting) but don’t want to be seen a victim of racism. At the end of the day, we all are in the same hated boat. Some use colorism to give the appearance they are one up on Blacks/ Afro- POC.
Colorism and POC communities are definitely different, but a lot of Black people feel as though POC use the tools of White Supremacy to move up while helping Whiteness keep us down. From employment opportunities to policing, there are plenty of instances where they help their own. Inclusiveness means everything but Black. It’s an unspoken, I just said it aloud.