…ou and have an honest dialogue about how we can create a world of mutual respect and understanding. That said, it often feels as if our opinions are not welcomed or valued. There is an ever growing list of things on which we are not allowed to share an opinion without bei…
Thank you for your response. First and foremost let me say White people can say whatever they please, including writing an essay about things Black people have done to them. It’s their right, their experiences, and no one has the right to discount them. The problem comes with White folks doing it is it’s always the racist go-tos (i.e. high crimes in Chicago — a specific place, or racist get backs for being called out on racism — tit for tat). If you wrote something that was true, perhaps Black people would have an issue being called on their shit, just like White people do.
The issue is no one wants to hear the truth. No one wants to accept responsibility for their actions. No one wants to be blamed for anything. No one wants to change. No one wants to make things better. One side wants to do all the talking and no listening.
White people have done PLENTY of talking, blaming, scapegoating, and comparing. It’s time you just listen — which leads me to your statement about your opinions (which I find a tad bit offensive I may add).
We don’t need anymore White “opinions.” We need conversations.
If someone is bleeding, do you offer them an opinion or a band-aid?
We are interested in talking, not your “opinions.” We are interested in your apology, not your excuses. We are interested in your empathy, not your coldness and cruelty. We desire your compassion and your help, not more words and looking at us like deers in headlights not knowing which way to go. We are tired of coddling. And although many of us are tired of talking, we understand that we cannot be silent because it is not in our best interest.
So if you feel like people are tired of talking or get the impression that don’t want to talk to White people about race, they don’t. They are tired. They are tired of inaction. After 400 years, millions of books written on our history, hundreds of thousands of studies done on all sorts of issues tied to systemic race, what is there really to talk about? White people need to work to undo what’s been done. White people need to work educating their friends and loved ones. White people need to raise antiracist children so the next generation will become a little less racist, a little less harmful, so that we can walk a little more freely.
So we can talk. We need to tell you how to hurt us less. White folks need to not only tell us what they are going to do to make it hurt less, then do those things. Otherwise, we’re all are just waisting our time.
Just because you don’t do any of the things noted, doesn’t mean White people don’t do those things. All you’ve done was exclude yourself from the bad people in your collective group and repackage my pain and make it about Whiteness. White people must learn to stop doing that before anyone Black or non-White can have real talks with them. It’s like talking to little children who get into trouble and they talk trying to get themselves out of the situation.
It’s not that we don’t care about your emotions, we would simply like to have our trauma acknowledged, and that seems like it’s almost impossible for White people to do.