I don’t know. I think tell and move on. When there is no trust, you should lose your privilege of leading.
White parents should talk to their young kids about making better choices in life before they leave for college early and often. Kind of like we Black folks have to talk to our kids about how to navigate the police. It’s a valuable life skill. While teaching our kids about dirty, scary cops may not save our lives, White parents talking to their White kids about not doing blackface because it can come back to find you out 30–40 years later will aid them in keeping their privilege.