I don’t really know how to feel about this. I am in no way transphobic, but I can totally understand someone saying these things and feeling this way. People are fighting with a lot of things mentally and internally that have absolutely nothing to do with the trans person sitting in front of us. The preferred gender identity you insist they conform to, figuring out who you are and what you’re becoming, all while you’re figuring yourself out. One thing that kept sticking out to me in this piece is the emphasis placed on “your’ feelings, what “you” thought, how “you” felt. The person basically explained to you that they were provided some new info that is quite contrary to every teaching she’s probably ever been exposed to about queerness. Trans people are asking someone to forget/ignore what they see right before their eyes (especially if your transition is an evolution) and to imagine something to come, something futuristic. Something they maybe can’t see yet. That’s hard.

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