I guess I feel bad because I feel I’m being strongly compelled (and I have had to basically argue at times before praying, with guest refusing to eat unless I do so)— like someone who is being forced into doing something they don’t want to but they may not be in a position to decline.

Like a woman who doesn’t want to have sex with a man, but they don’t feel comfortable saying no or they fear what will happen when they do say no. You simply go along for the sake of getting along and never put yourself in that awkward position again.

If I’m talking and a person wants to pray, I must stop talking so they can pray. Their rights to pray supersedes my right to speak and not pray. It’s a microaggression of sorts Christians/religious people practice without acknowledging as such. When you express why you don’t want to participate in praying rituals — immediately people feel compelled to advise me on how much God loves me and so on. Christians just don’t know how to take no for an answer and let it go.

They act as drug dealers pushing dope to clean people trying to get us hooked. I don’t like drugs, and I don’t want to be under the influence of anything, or maybe I’m a recovering addict of something else and I don’t use anymore. No one cares, just come party with us. I feel as though this forcing is a form of coercion. It’s uncomfortable and the asking has invisible strings associated with it. It’s important for all of us to remember boundaries and be respectful of others at all times.

Thank you for your insightful thoughts.

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