I had the same thing happen to me with my partner. I was so angry and hurt by the situation that I decided to write about it. We talked about it, but I felt she “selectively” was unable to process how what she withheld was a deceptive. Her background certainly didn’t help any (being in law enforcement). Like you, I stopped talking and started writing, and only then did she get the point.
Sometimes people can’t see or understand how ugly their actions truly are until they see themselves in unflattering ways on the interwebs. The damage was done by both of us, and it totally changed how we viewed each other going forward. Confessions are good for the soul, in person or on paper!!!!
Like you, I would do it all again! No regrets. Loved this B.