I really enjoyed this piece of research and it somewhat validates what I already know. People really have a problem with truth if it’s violating social and religious beliefs. We date a short time, rush to get hitched to be married to the same person for a long time. We marry for wealth (or to keep children from being bastards), with no thought of how the marriage is going to look 5, 10, 15 years down the road.
I personally belive outside of long-term relationships is inevitable for the reasons noted. Most people don’t want to believe that, but I have lived long enough to see men and women try and do almost anything to have their sexual needs met. Watching people trapped by social norms/beliefs and unrealistic religious beliefs is very sad. How is it that society gets to control something so vital, normal, and healthy to ones sexual and emotional well-being? And why is it after we discover the truth, refusing to conform, we women are called rebels, cheaters, sluts, Jezebels, and the likes?
Thanks for sharing this essay. I always hear women being negative about sex as they age. I haven’t had those experiences or painful sex because I think differently I suppose. Or maybe I don’t settle for bad sex? I don’t know. In any event, keep sharing and teaching my friend.