…y between childless and childful women. Frankly, I’m surprised there’s not more backlash sometimes. Once, after being complimented on her youthful appearance by another woman, my friend Sara told her she owed it all to being childless. Sara went into detail about how her body was unchanged. Her vagina was intact. Her hips hadn’t gotten wider. She never spent years being sleep deprived and she was able to travel whenever she wanted. The woman was a little shocked. Maybe it wasn’t nice, but I was silently cheering Sara on. It was a…
I say this all the time. Having been pregnant 4 times and having two kids, I tell people HONESTLY that having kids is NOT all women make it out to be. While all women don’t have bodies that change after child birth (mines did not), I can honestly say that I gave the majority of my life sacrificing to kids and my spouse. Chasing kids to football games, basketball games, and track meets. Spending all my money to feed my children (and their friends), never being able to really eat what I want because “the kids” won’t like that. I can’t be too sexy because “my kids” will think I’m a whore.
Let’s not forget taking vacations with kids going to places I never would go if I didn’t have a kid, spending half of my life being a role model saint (something that in reality is far from the truth), doing all the chores and child rearing duties because society says it’s your job. Let’s not forget the sex life falling to the wayside because the kids are sucking all the life and strength from your body. They didn’t ask to be in this world, so once I learned what having children was really about I had to suck it up and soldier through it.
If I could account for all of the money and time spent rearing children………….I could retire today. My kids are grown now because I started pretty young, but I don’t care to hear about people oversharing about their children and how glorious they are. It’s not glamorous to everyone. Now that my kids are grown, I look for as many adult only activities as I can. I don’t want to see or hear any kids when I’m out enjoying my now free time. I did my time in kid jail…………I’m free now. Wished I would have had the sense to stick to my guns and not rear children. People always seem to want what they don’t have, without really understanding the complexities of the thing they want.