I totally understand what you’re saying here. It was a very interesting read. Being non-white in America comes with lots of baggage. You sacrificed a lot to be a model-minority while navigating somewhat racist dating criteria.
If you want to date and have companionship, you should consider dating outside of your recommended dating pool. There are plenty of non-white professional, educated women of color Desi men never look at. When I was single I can’t tell you how many times I have been out alone in a room or space with Desi men and they’ll look past me if I’m glass. Just because a woman isn’t Desi or White doesn’t mean she won’t be into your or compatible. Open your mind and dump White Supremacy mindsets about dating to find the perfect Desi or White woman.
If you’re looking for companionship, love, or a spouse, you hold the key to finding your pot of gold. If you just wanna be fucked you can pay for that. If you want companionship you should approach people you are attracted to. Be open-minded. Loneliness is no fun and not good for you if it’s not what you want. Free your mind and the rest will follow.