I understand most people’s logic behind not speaking up about his perversion, but he was a pedophile. We shouldn’t make it about the predator, rather make it about his victims. When you’re a child, you can’t give consent for any type of sexual activity. Most states only have a 2–3 year age difference before sex with a minor becomes criminal. Sex with these young ladies were crimes. R.Kelly used the humiliating sex acts and videos as leverage over the young ladies to prevent them from talking.
I’m happy that my piece helps bring understanding about how silence and a lack of understanding of state and federal laws enable predators to remain undetected, harm more victims, traumatize more young children, and create this monster known as R.Kelly. There are too many men in our social and familial circles just like Robert.
Robert was an alleged victim too, and his strict religious environment, lack of father figure/advocate along with other predictors likely helped make him a predator. Of course some of his behavior is also genetic (another story for another day).
In my next piece I’m going to address how victims sometimes go on to become predators and how a large percentage of male victims turn into predators. Sex is complex to address as it is, but violating children should never be tolerated under any circumstances. It’s rooted in patriarchy, and the best medicine for it can come from men not tolerating perverted child sexual abusers in their ranks and supporting child victims of sexual abuse. Thanks for your feedback. I really want us to learn how silence and victim blaming enables our community’s most prolific child-sexual predators to thrive. Silence covers a multitude of sins.