Since I was given the story to read, I did, but it didn’t make any sense to me because it had too many holes (like most stories about overly intoxicated White women tend to be). This story (like most written about drunk White women who are killed or raped) left out on so many details. It also places no blame on her for her role in her death.

In no way am I condoning her murder or the men in this story. My specific issue is with the lack of responsibility of the victim the original poster seemed to gloss over.

  1. The story said “ Paighton Houston (the victim) had driven to the bar with the coworker earlier in the day, her mother wrote.” If she had driven to the bar, why didn’t she leave with her coworker? Why did she leave with two strange men? Why did they split up?
  2. In another story from a local Alabama paper, it’s noted that the victim left on her own, willingly. This means she made a decision to leave although she wasn’t sober enough to understand the consequences of those actions, also personal choices the victim made to her detriment unfortunately.

The victim’s actions and choices played a role her death in the same manner her killer(s) actions and choices played a role in her death. She made a decision to go off with strangers. No one kidnapped her.

Lastly but most importantly, our situations are in no way similar. I wasn’t a stranger on the elevator, neither was the other White colleague on the elevator with my Elevator Ellen. I wasn’t drunk or intoxicated. None of us had been drinking because we had just got done working for the day. The woman killed drove to a bar with friends and left with strange men overly intoxicated. Does she not have in responsibility for getting drunk? Leaving with strangers? Leaving her friend? Not having a buddy system?

I was just Black riding on an elevator, the only crime I committed and that’s the only reason you chose to share that story. This particular crime was “allegedly” committed by Black men, which you and Elevator Ellen imply/insinuate are threats to White women (even drunk ones making themselves victims for strange sociopaths) which is absolutely not true.

The one man riding on the elevator was there before any of us got onto the it minding his own business ignoring all of us like most men used to dealing with fragile women do.

We don’t know anything about the men who killed this woman or what happened leading up to her death. The reason you shared this story is quite obvious.

You submitting this story as a reason for White women being afraid of men, Black men, or Black people is racist, and negates the fact most people are killed, raped, or molested by people they know (i.e. family friends, significant others, spouses, parents siblings, and other close relatives). Try doing some UCR research before you present such stories to justify White fragility, White fear, toxic White feminism, and overt racism.

I’m a woman and I don’t think like this (a victim). I surely don’t put myself in bad positions to be taken advantage by highly functioning sociopaths and psychopaths in our midst. At some point White women must accept responsibility for their own and insecurities fears, and behavior and stop projecting those fears onto innocent people. This story is not the same as mines. Neither were the risks. Some White women will do anything to avoid taking responsibility for their upbringing, actions, behaviors and insecurities.

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