I’m happy for you, and sad to read this at the same time, but it explains a lot for me. I live in a place with a huge gay community, and I see a lot of older gay men alone. Walking the beach, shopping in the grocery stores, going about their lives kind of in a daze. These men have that look like they have no friends. I can’t explain the look — but it is indeed one of sadness and loneliness.

Fortunately I have straight friends. I find my gay friends to be quite moody and unreliable. I don’t know what that is about, but in general — friends are hard for us to find in our lives. The older we get, the harder it is to make and keep friends. I have found it’s much easier making friends relying on the activities I enjoy than making friends because of my sexuality. I’m happy you’ve found good friends, and I hope they stay in your life. One good friend is better than 100 nice acquaintances.

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