I’m very saddened by your story. No matter what you do, you’re going to lose. To hide means you are not your authentic self. To be out means your child will likely be bullied, relentlessly. Then you suffer from the guilt of choosing to be who you truly are. The stakes are so high. It’s a very hard decision for you I’m sure. I wish you all the best and I hope you and your family are able to remain safe through it all!