Instead of viewing it as once a cheater always a cheater, perhaps he cheated because he stayed with a person he was clearly dissatisfied with. Cheating is just the problem manifested. The symptoms were there long before the husband ever cheated. People cheat for a variety of reasons, but primarily because of dissatisfaction in their relationship. Sometimes women don’t want to hear what a man has to say. Sometimes she’s too fragile to accept the truth. And sometimes for him it’s cheaper to keep her, so he tells her he will be faithful because he knows she won’t leave him. Perhaps she’s old-fashioned or maybe she relies on his income.

In any event, if he continues to cheat on his wife…it’s because his wife tolerates it. Some people step out, identify and fix the problem, then move on. Others just put a band-aid on the symptoms. You never know what happens in a relationship. As girlfriends we tend to get the woman’s side and stand in solidarity with her, but sometimes…we women are TERRIBLE. Terrible in bed, naggers, we have bad attitudes, we’re too needy, we’re checked out of our relationships, we’re entitled, and disrespectful to our spouses. Sometimes it’s better to look instead of listening to our girlfriends.

I believe there is no such thing as once a cheater always a cheater. I believe some people are not meant to be in long-term relationships, knowing full well they tire easily which causes cheating. Others have mismatched sex-drives and need more than a partner puts out causing them to stray. I believe a cheater

I believe when people find what they need for their lives they are able to remain celibate, and move on amicably when things fall apart. It’s when children, money and property get involved that the cheating/staying/cheating cycle starts. If it were so simple for people to part without being in the poor house, they would.

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