I’ve written about my experiences. It’s complicated. It’s never ending. There’s no one-size-fit-all situation. Coming out is complex. First, you must subject yourself to the thoughts, expressions, beliefs, and opinions of others which is so very stressful. Secondly, you must process the feelings of others as you still neglect yourself so to speak. Lastly, you’re trying to live a compartmentalized truth.

It’s not healthy suppressing your natural feelings, nor is it healthy for you to worry about what others think. I would suggest creating a new compartment for your life until you decide whether being “out” is worth the hassle. You may considering finding organizations in your area like PFLAG, an extended family of the LGBTQ community who may be able to offer you supports even if it’s just a ear. I used to attend PFLAG with some of my friends years ago who did not have family and friends to support them after they came out.

I love the mission of PFLAG. They are family when there is no network. You don’t have to feel alone. You also don’t have to subject yourself to isolation. Come out when you want, how you want, and where you want. There is no pressure. Focus on living the life you want, with the person(s) who enjoy you as your true authentic self. Best wishes!

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