… the subject of two recent questions to The Ethicist at The New York Times in the last month alone. The first one goes like this: “Should the new girlfriend of an awful ex-husband be warned?” The second question is very similar: “Should you ever warn a friend about someone’s possible actions based on the reports of several trustworthy people?”
Meddling in the affairs of an ex for me is a no-no. If the new partner asked, I still wouldn’t tell! Very few people believe the worst about people. I did this a long time ago, and the couple turned on me. The lady continued the relationship as if she had the power to change him or as if her twat was better than mines (lol). When she finally got the gift he gives to all the ladies she wanted to come around and talk about how terrible the guy was. He did her the same way he did me. I was done with her and had no cares about her misery at that point. As far as warning a friend about someone’s actions I haven’t experienced personally, I wouldn’t share those either. If I were asked if I knew anything about a prospective shady person, depending on how close we are, I may disclose I know something, but that I did not have first-hand knowledge so the person could make their own decisions.
We love fantasies, so I allow people to discover their own truths. People see things differently and I respect this. Nothing teaches truth like real life. Great post about shitty people. I concur with everything.