不不不 Oh my goodness this is the best response ever!!! I love it. I dont think Ive ever heard of anything like this before, but its definitely a great concept. The one thing I can say is that most Black people are welcoming of strangers that come into most of our spaces. Suspicious most times, but we are for the most part understanding and appreciative when White people enter into our churches, restaurants, and communities.

I have gone to various White and interracial churches where the leadership was all White and had mixed experiences. There are some people who will simply not want you in their space. Theyll let you know it either by not interacting with you, or by giving you the look. Its cool, people are entitled to their personal space, but public spaces are for everyone. What I would do if I were you is to find a church youd like to visit, make contact with the pastor and let them know youre interested but youre afraid. Letting the pastor know will set the tone and table for your arrival. Having an ally is helpful to lay the groundwork for your visit will be nice.

I myself like to just go into White spaces without warning to see how Ill be received (as if I dont already know). I either get the fake glad you came come back, or I get ignored, especially if Im the only one.

One visit wont be enough to make an impression or get to know Black people. Go to the space regularly. The more you show up, the more people will feel more comfortable with you. After Dylan Roof coming into a church to kill innocent people, most Black people are very suspicious of White people coming into our Black spaces. Most times, White people come to Black churches and Black spaces when they need us (like when they want us to vote for them or their candidate), so youll have to deal with the time it takes for people to warm up. We get a lesson early in life on how to navigate White spaces because we have to.

Church isnt the only place you can go. Look for Black music festivals, Black community events open to the public, and Black community celebrations that to engage with Black people, see how we interact, enjoy our culture, eat some good food, laugh, dance, and have fun. Church isnt the only place to connect with us. Dont be afraid to go where we are. We dont bite and we will break bread with good people, no matter their color. Life is too short to be segregated and to live in fear. Step outside of your comfort zone. Its not easy, but we Blacks do it every single day when we attend school, apply for jobs, go for a drivers license or business licenses, dine at non-Black establishments, shop outside of our communities, bank, etc. We must engage with White people frequently.

You can also choose to think of this another way. Think of all the ways Black people and People of Color serve/service White people. We often have some of the lowest wage jobs serving in communities. We often work the jobs which require us to care for people the most. We clean your mothers and grandmothers you place in nursing homes and assisted livings (CNAs). We clean your hotel rooms on vacation. We handle your bags at the airports when you travel. We often process a lot of the meat you eat. We cook your food in many kitchens, and bus the tables when youre done. We haul your trash away from your home weekly. We drive city buses and schools buses. We contribute to society in invaluable, inconspicuous ways, yet get little credit for it.

Change your mindset and go fellowship with some of the kindest, most living people in the world. And excuse us if we are a little skeptical of your presence. Weve been given plenty of reasons to be suspect. I believe if you have a good heart and a good spirit, you will be received. If you go with an entitled attitude and expecting, well you may have a problem. To earn a friendship, you have to be a friend. Do your part. Have an expecting attitude, and you shall receive. You should create that nonprofit that helps thwart racism . I think that its a huge need. Food feeds souls. I also think White people dont receive from anyone but their own. If its done, a White person would need to spearhead it. It doesnt matter who does it, it just needs to happen. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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