That’s exactly what it is Lavonne, it’s a back handed compliment. To me it says you’re subpar unless you do these things. Then once you achieve this metric/criteria…you’re good enough.
The back-handed compliment is a perfect way to summarize the insult/compliment. Thank you for reading and taking the time to share this revelation. I have been the recipient of these types of insults more times than I can shake a stick at. I know it’s ignorance, but it should be addressed more frequently.