The way you described your very Black grandson… I’m not even going to walk into this trap ma’am. Love has nothing to do with acting racistly and saying racist things because you don’t know any better. I’m sure you do and say all kinds of things because you mean well, but you don’t know any better. America has made you a racist, and you can’t good deed yourself out of it. Racist people can do good deeds, just like good people can do racist things on occassion. The question isn’t how you treat your Black grandson who you’ve likely groomed and forced to assimilate. The real question is how do your treat Black people you don’t know, don’t love, and don’t have a relationship with? Have you raised your Black grandson to be afraid of Black people like White people? Does he have any Black friends? Consume his own culture?