…. Being the only POC in the spaces one finds oneself into takes a real toll on one’s mental health. Having to deal with the constant stress and violence of feeling unwelcome is extenuating. Beyond that, there is an extreme loneliness that comes with not having people to share your experience with.
Plus, within the Black community, we are often made to feel like our experience as Black people…
D. H. Alves
This really resonates with me. I’m Black, in the middle-class, and you can always see the White wheels turning as if to ask how did I make it into their space. It’s very lonely. I’m thankful I didn’t grow up in this space, so I know where to go when I need some Black love, TLC and fellowship. When you talk about the unwelcome feeling and all the microaggressions that come along with being in White spaces not meant for us, it hits home. I tried to talk about the physical experiences in White spaces in a piece I wrote and boy, let’s say I got lots of resistance. lol
We may suffer in silence, but know you are not alone. Isolation is not good for us. Find a small Black tribe, and take care. It’s lonely out here, and we weren’t meant to be alone. Sending you my best!