This was a great thought-provoking piece. I have already thought about my contingency plans for aging in a same-sex relationship. Because I have kids, my situation is a little different, but I realize many lesbians never had children, so who will care for them when they can no longer care for themselves is a real issue. I wonder why no one has created a same-sex assisted living and aging in place model for such times as this?

There are many gay communities where you can go live, have youthful fun, go visit on vacation, but nothing for when you get old and can’t care for yourself anymore. I think this is something that the LGBTQ community needs to spend a great deal of time advocating for.. America doesn’t take care of its old people like many other countries do. You work all of your life working and paying taxes, then you can’t die in peace because you love someone of the same-sex and chose to spend your life with them. Go figure.