… a romantic relationship with an older woman because that’s how they will learn to be a “good man.” Not only that, but older women should make an effort to date younger men because it’s our responsibility to teach them how to be respectful of the opposite sex. That way, when they date women their own age, they’ll be more chivalrous and courteous.
Ummm…no, it’s the responsibility of his mother and father to teach their young man how to treat women, not the jobs of older women. Why must we be the world’s caretakers? Who takes care of us?
That’s what’s wrong with our community today. We have it backwards. Men are allowed to leave their parents’ homes raggedy, only to become some woman’s new child. I don’t mind showing him how to treat me…but I’m not Dr. Ruth trying to be his sex therapist, psychologist, and psychoanalyst. It’s not my job to worry about his future prospects. That’s their job to teach their man how to treat them.
I’m only obligated to care for myself as a mature woman. If a young man wants to date me and he doesn’t know how to approach me and treat me, that’s his problem, not mines. I have raised my sons to be respectful to women so they wouldn’t be someone else’s burden. It’s one of the worst things about dating men to me. Teaching young men how to be in emotional relationships with mature women and how to be more self-aware is a pain in the ass! It’s not fair to us.
That’s the least we as Black women can do, especially if we’ve been single parents. I’m tired of being the world’s mule. Sometimes we just need to save ourselves. If a man doesn’t know how to care for us, he doesn’t deserve us.