I’m so sorry to hear how terrible your family members have been to you, especially your dad. He sounds like he was a really bad dude. I don’t know why people have children if they are incapable of caring for them. Somehow I don’t think you really missed anything by you dad’s absence although it’s very hard to determine the impact a parent in the home would have on kids, even a terrible one.
I’m sorry your life was interrupted so rudely by your dad after 25 years. Some of our family members are evil and we dodge a bullet from their absences. I think we both dodged bullets. We have moved on and we are able to put the pieces of our lives together. Our lives are testimonies for the millions of people living in unhealthy relationships with their family members. We give others in similar situations hope, showing them they don’t have to remain in unhealthy situations. There is life after horrible family relationships.
I wish you well and I hope that you’ve found peace with your dysfunctional family. No one deserves to be treated that way. I don’t understand how people can wake up everyday and be so evil. What I do know is that we are in change of our own happiness, and I’m choosing to be happy without my family. It seems as though you’ve come to the same conclusion.
We can’t choose our family, but we can certainly choose our friends. Be well, and take care.