Wow! I just can’t say how much I appreciate this feedback Mia. I think this a lot but I would never say it because it’s hard enough telling White people they are racist, add along all these other psychoogical challenges and well let’s just say that’s not the hill I’m trying to die on right now. I do see the correlation in the behavior and the clinical name for it. The question is why can’t the offenders see?
Another writer who I love dearly (Interculturalisticman) and I have had these discussions frquently about White people, narcissim, social disorders and how there must be a connection to something beyond their control. I know all too well about narcissim (my dad has a clinical diagnosis, my ex-husband did not). I realize egocentricity is a product of either genetics or enviornment and I suppose it’s possible White child-rearing /parenting could easily create a narcissistic personality. A lot of them in fact. Generations of them. That’s pretty horrible for the world.
You’re right, I do indeed feel hopeless like many other POC because we want so desperately to get off this emotional rollercoaster with these people. Unfortunately, Whites posses all the money and power, run most governance, and create the rules we must play by so we’re forced to deal with these narcs, violating the no-contact rules mean to protect victims from narc behavior and gaslighting.
I think you hit the nail on the head, but that’s a hill to die on another day. We gotta tackle one diagnosis at a time to prevent White rage. Thanks so much for your detailed analysis. It’s spot on.