Yet women like these will pose as an ally, even working in the field as advocates serving our children. She treated me as a threat indeed, but in that moment I had an opportunity to see what men must feel like riding in elevators with us too. I just had no idea. I don't live my life being afraid of people I don't know because I was taught to fear them.
I have been raped by a Black man. I don't fear all Black men and I don't let that rape rule how I live my life. I was molested as a child. I don't allow the trauma of the event to rule how I interact with people. It helped me have better conversations with my children. Most White women are raised to be victims, and they are taught to teach the rest of us to see them as victims. They are not going to punish me for their trauma. We each need to deal with our own bullshit and we can't punish others for our past. I choose not to do that and they don't.
This is what sets Black women apart from all other women I'd say. We are walking trauma, yet we trust, love, support, carry, help, and inspire others inspite of our trauma. They lie about theirs, and we can't even talk about ours.