You’re right. How can we reconcile when the past never dies? How can you reconcile with people who will never say this nation’s institutions are not fair nor were they ever. We are always forced to pick an evil. It’s well after the civil rights era and here White people are still reveling in the Confederacy and rebel flags.
The difference with poor white though is they will align themselves with Whiteness as if it is going to serve them any better. They tend to put themselves one notch above being Black — which is bad. I can’t try harder. I walk around nice everyday trying not to look like I’m stealing in stores, not to scare little old White ladies walking down the street, and trying to watch my tone despite the number of microaggressions and slights experienced that would make a normal White person explode. Dominance hierarchy is the perfect explanation for this particular madness.